I Love You Mother
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I thank you all for your well wishes and prayers while I was caring for my mother. I might have mentioned it sometime ago that she underwent surgery for a hernia March 2005. She had to be taken to emergency a few days after the 1st surgery for some blockage. The second surgery revealed her intestine was twisted and the mesh to hold the hernia together slipped off. She was gathering so much waste in the intestine that it had to leave somewhere which was why she kept vomiting. She was finally alright when the doctor operated the second time. This year, about a few days before I took her to the emergency, she was telling my father about how she started to feel nauseous. He told her to check with her doctor but she probably hoped it would go on its own. It grew worse until I was aware of it. I took her to the emergency early in the morning when she started to get horrible pain and throw up a lot. We got there and it was a long wait until they took her vitals then another long wait until she was screaming and crying so much that they got her to a room. They said there was a shortage of beds. It was a busy day for emergency. They kept her on painkillers and took xrays. She was given a liquid to drink so they can scan her inside. She wasn't cooperative but sometimes she listened to me. Thankfully I had my cellphone to alert the rest of my family even my D.A. More waiting until early evening. I was also sick with a cold and didn't have a desire to eat. I didn't eat all day and worse, my father was with me and he's a diabetic so he has to eat and he didn't want to until he started getting weak. The worse was when the nurses made me hold my mother's hands down while they put a tube through her nose and down her throat to get rid of the waste. Scans showed she had a blockage so the tube was to help break it up. She screamed so loudly that it was upsetting me and later I would call Dan and cry to him. After many hours later, the doctor gave orders that she stay the night. I didn't get back home until 1am. She stayed a few days in the hospital miserable because she didn't eat. She was getting hungry again. The tube helped get rid of the waste in her, about 1 1/2 litres of junk. My brother and sisters would keep her company while my father and I go home to eat and care for the pets. Finally the doctor found the problem in an xray which showed scarring in the small intestine which was giving her problems. He didn't want to operate on her fearing more scarring would happen. He wants her to drink lots of water and warns her not to eat foods that will get her constipated or else he will have to operate if she shows up again within 3 months. It's not easy making her forget foods she likes and I know heavy or spicy foods upset her. He made very sure that she was doing her regular bowel movements and that no more waste was coming from the tube. She finally had some foods to eat. Liquid first and then solids little by little. I wouldn't have gotten through this hell without my sweetheart. He has been very patient and understanding when I am not online to be with him and I promise him I will be going to Wales hopefully September/October. If it is not one parent, it is the other. They are both elderly with problems and coming from a big family with siblings, it's sometimes not enough. I was on my own mainly. My dad gets upset when my mother goes through pain. And I have to be strong and sometimes I need Dan to help me stay strong. My mother was finally released on Saturday and I was told what to do in case a reoccurence happened again. I pray that it will NOT. I do not know how much more I could take. She may drive me crazy and up the wall sometimes but I love my mother and don't ever want to lose her not until she is a little old lady with white hair.
I love my Welshman.
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You surprised me MK. I had no idea that you went through the same problem as my mother. I am monitoring what she eats. I keep her away from the very hot salsa, corn tortillas, mangoes, and heavy mexican food. I just keep reminding her that she wouldn't want to go through that same pain as before and she watches what she eats. When did it first happen to you?
I love my Welshman.